non diagnostic listening

Non-Diagnostic Listening

I just read a really cool article on the net at

http://www.webcom.com/thrive/schizo/articles/ndlisten.html

It is so easy to slip into diagnosis when you work with people. I

believe we diagnose when we fear-- diagnosis gives us a sense of

"stability" in a chaotic situation. We talk with the client (the word

"client" is interesting in itself), and we cannot get the response

that we hope for. Perhaps we are looking for something like "I guess

you are right, I am thinking stupid... I am going to change myself and

be happy." When we don't get this response, or if we get a response

that is outside of what we perceive as logic, we peer over the brink

of sanity; we worry that this person will pull us both over the edge.

Humans seem to naturally fear non-connection with other humans. At

this point we need a reason, and "bipolar," or "schizophrenia," or

"depression" seem to fit so well. Once we have the word, we can plunk

all the previous behaviour into the mindframe. It explains

everything... This person is mentally ill, so it's not my fault. In

the healthcare system, it is so much easier to deal with people in

"channels." bipolars over here, FASD over there, etc.

Some who read this will say "This is nothing new, non-judgmental

philosophies have always been around." While I agree that the

cast-the-first-stone speech is quite old, I would say that social

workers need to speak about and process judgment frequently. I think

when we begin to see our fear in the situation, we can start to get to

questions like "What is the WORST thing that will happen if I just

forget the labels and listen to this guy?" Truly see the fear and you

will watch it melt away.

I am also aware that I judge out of survival. I have no apologies for

being judgmental, though our society has labeled "judgment" as "bad."

I see little use in judging MYSELF for being judgmental (!). Boy, this

just gets silly at some points!

Anyhow, I would like to see people looking more closely at how they

view the people who come to them for help. Do you sit with your

co-workers and say "That woman is blah blah..."? Do you think of blah

blah when you talk to her? Are you closed down as a result? What would

an alternative look like? Is the alternative scary? Hmmm....